As i have been observing my mind, my thinking patterns, my emotions and behaviors, as well as what upset me or works me out in other people and situations, I am becoming more aware of thoughts and i am able to disassociate from them. As a NLP master practitioner one of the basics of NLP is association and dissociation, that is how we engage with our thoughts. We can have some thoughts where we are experiencing the illusion in first person, talking, seeing and feeling from ourselves (association). These thoughts have charged emotions as we experience them in first person and so very close to us. Dissociated thoughts are when we are inside a thought but is like we have a camera view of ourselves; the image is more distant and has less definition, and so being more distant has less emotional charge and so a weaker feeling is created in our state.
So one day, while i was lost in thinking, I caught my mind in the past, ans so i asked myself:
WHERE AM I?
I was waiting for my mind to answer but no answer came, no thoughts raised for a short period of time. I am in the present, even this statement is based on the past as containing words, and as they are words in my mind it is a construct elaborated by it and so just an illusion. The present moment doesn't need words, words have meaning and references and so are based in the past.
The present has not words. It seems that the higher purpose of the mind is to keep me away from the present moment, from this state of being..
Because this state of presence does not need a mind, it is fully operated in balance with the rest of the universe and the mind, for as much as it wants to be in control, it cannot control what is not controllable and so tries to grab me away from this moment.
HOW DO I OVERCOME MY MIND?
1) OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS, WHERE ARE THEY PROJECTING?
Just observe, are you in the past or in the future? Are you engaged in your thinking as first person or is it like a movie where you can see yourself? Is it a fresh thought or is it one of them that you have been having for sometime? ..Maybe re-presenting itself in a different way? Just observe, become aware. As you watch them without giving any emotion or attention, but just observing something that you see in the cinema of your mind, You might start experiencing detachment, disengagement and when you do that, the thoughts have not strength and dissipate like clouds in the sky.
2) OBSERVE YOUR EMOTIONS AND YOUR FEELINGS
A thought charged with an emotion gives you a feeling. You can not experience a feeling without having thought about it. Example, you feel good when you have "good" thoughts and mix them with emotions. You feel sad if you have "sad" thoughts. Feelings are the result of thinking and have different outcome in your physiology.
3) BE WARE OF YOUR BODY, MIND AND SPACE
As you become dissociated with your thoughts, become aware of your body. As you were thinking the body has been doing what it does without you thinking about it (you were lost somewhere else). Whilst the body has been doing the activity and you have been somewhere else with your mind, who has been managing all of this? And how does everything runs smoothly?
4) ASK YOURSELF: WHERE AM I?
As you recognize that you have your mind somewhere, your body here and something else directing the whole thing, ask yourself: Where am I? Once you asked, wait for an answer, don't look for it, just stay here in this space, which is the now, that has no questions and no answers. Experience what you experience, just as it is. How does it feel?
5) OBSERVE YOUR MIND AND KEEP THE PROCESS
See what you got from the simple exercise and do it again anytime you want. The main part is to observe as much as possible, as objective as possible and enjoy the space between you thoughts. This space is you, is the present for you. Available at any time you wish.
What have you experienced after you asked the question?
You might have experience a moment of stillness, unusual moment of no thought, no chatter, no movies in the mind. Do it again and again and observe. There is not much else to do, it is an instant pill to break a state that you might experience based on illusion of past already gone and future yet to come but never coming; In between these two, where are you?
Check out the video from Krishnamurti about the mind , the controller which is also the controlled whilst there is nothing to control. Krishnamurti is a person that mastered human Beingness and though around the world for over 50 years.
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